What the scriptures say about expectations

What do the scriptures say about expectations?

The texts call it tṛṣṇā (तृष्णा). Thirst that does not age is expectation of others and of the future (āśā). Bhartrihari said we aged, craving did not, and Pingala slept in peace the night she stopped expecting. They set joy, clarity and contentment against it.

  • 104 verses
  • 11 stories
  • Weighs on the mind
A brahmin (retold by Bhishma)

यच्च कामसुखं लोके यच्च दिव्यं महत्सुखम् / तृष्णाक्षयसुखस्यैते नार्हतः षोडशीं कलाम्

yacca kāmasukhaṃ loke yacca divyaṃ mahatsukham / tṛṣṇākṣayasukhasyaite nārhataḥ ṣoḍaśīṃ kalām

Whatever pleasure desire brings in this world, and whatever great happiness there is in heaven, neither is worth a sixteenth part of the happiness that comes when craving ends.

Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Mokshadharma

Expectations in the texts' own words

Someone in the verse is in it, or the text names it outright. Many readers find their own day here.

  • Bhartrihari

    आशा नाम नदी मनोरथजला तृष्णातरङ्गाकुला रागग्राहवती वितर्कविहगा धैर्यद्रुमध्वंसिनी । मोहावर्तसुदुस्तरातिगहना प्रोत्तुङ्गचिन्तातटी तस्याः पारगता विशुद्धमनसो नन्दन्ति योगीश्वराः ॥

    āśā nāma nadī manorathajalā tṛṣṇātaraṅgākulā rāgagrāhavatī vitarkavihagā dhairyadrumadhvaṃsinī | mohāvartasudustarātigahanā prottuṅgacintātaṭī tasyāḥ pāragatā viśuddhamanaso nandanti yogīśvarāḥ ||

    There is a river called Hope. Its water is wishes, its waves are craving; passions are its crocodiles, doubts its birds; it uproots the trees of courage; its whirlpools of delusion are hard to cross and deep, and its banks of worry tower high. Only great yogis, pure in mind, who reach the far shore, rejoice.

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

    Shows craving as the waves. our reading

  • Rama

    न प्राप्नोति क्वचित्किंचित्प्राप्तैरपि महाधनैः । नान्तः संपूर्णतामेति करण्डक इवाम्बुभिः ॥

    na prāpnoti kvacitkiṃcitprāptairapi mahādhanaiḥ | nāntaḥ saṃpūrṇatāmeti karaṇḍaka ivāmbubhiḥ ||

    The mind never really gets anything anywhere; even when great riches come, it never fills up inside, like a wicker basket dipped in water.

    Yoga Vasishtha

    Shows getting more and still not feeling full. our reading

  • Bhartrihari

    उत्खातं निधिशङ्कया क्षितितलं ध्माता गिरेर्धातवो निस्तीर्णः सरितां पतिर्नृपतयो यत्नेन संतोषिताः । मन्त्राराधनतत्परेण मनसा नीताः श्मशाने निशाः प्राप्तः काणवराटकोऽपि न मया तृष्णे सकामा भव ॥

    utkhātaṃ nidhiśaṅkayā kṣititalaṃ dhmātā girerdhātavo nistīrṇaḥ saritāṃ patirnṛpatayo yatnena saṃtoṣitāḥ | mantrārādhanatatpareṇa manasā nītāḥ śmaśāne niśāḥ prāptaḥ kāṇavarāṭako’pi na mayā tṛṣṇe sakāmā bhava ||

    I dug up the earth hoping for treasure, smelted the ores of mountains, crossed the ocean, lord of rivers, worked hard to please kings, spent nights in cremation grounds with my mind fixed on mantras, and I did not get even a broken cowrie. Craving, be satisfied now!

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

    Shows years of chasing told in first person. our reading

  • Indra, disguised as a jackal

    न तृप्तिः प्रियलाभेऽस्ति तृष्णा नाद्भिः प्रशाम्यति / संप्रज्वलति सा भूयः समिद्भिरिव पावकः

    na tṛptiḥ priyalābhe’sti tṛṣṇā nādbhiḥ praśāmyati / saṃprajvalati sā bhūyaḥ samidbhiriva pāvakaḥ

    There is no satisfaction in getting what you want. Craving is not put out by water; it only blazes up more, like a fire fed with fuel.

    Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Mokshadharma

    Shows the want that grows each time it is fed. our reading

  • Nidagha

    यां यामहं मुनिश्रेष्ठ संश्रयामि गुणश्रियम् । तां तां कृन्तति मे तृष्णा तन्त्रीमिव कुमूषिका ॥

    yāṃ yāmahaṃ muniśreṣṭha saṃśrayāmi guṇaśriyam | tāṃ tāṃ kṛntati me tṛṣṇā tantrīmiva kumūṣikā ||

    Whatever good quality I take refuge in, great sage, craving cuts it away, as a mouse gnaws through a string.

    Maha Upanishad 3.22

    First person, every resolve I make, craving chews through. our reading

  • Nidagha

    पदं करोत्यलङ्घ्येऽपि तृप्ता विफलमीहते । चिरं तिष्ठति नैकत्र तृष्णा चपलमर्कटी ॥

    padaṃ karotyalaṅghye’pi tṛptā viphalamīhate | ciraṃ tiṣṭhati naikatra tṛṣṇā capalamarkaṭī ||

    It sets foot even where no one can go; even when satisfied it strives in vain; it never stays long in one place: craving is a restless monkey.

    Maha Upanishad 3.23

    Shows wanting that keeps going even after it has been fed. our reading

  • Rama

    अन्तर्ग्रथितया देहे सर्वदुश्छेदयाऽनया । रज्ज्वेवाशु बलीवर्दस्तृष्णया वाह्यते जनः ॥

    antargrathitayā dehe sarvaduśchedayā’nayā | rajjvevāśu balīvardastṛṣṇayā vāhyate janaḥ ||

    Knotted inside the body and hard to cut, craving drags a person along the way a rope drags a bullock.

    Yoga Vasishtha

    Shows being pulled along by wanting one cannot cut. our reading

  • Krishna

    इदमद्य मया लब्धमिमं प्राप्स्ये मनोरथम् । इदमस्तीदमपि मे भविष्यति पुनर्धनम् ॥

    idamadya mayā labdhamimaṃ prāpsye manoratham | idamastīdamapi me bhaviṣyati punardhanam ||

    'This I have gained today; this desire I shall fulfil. This wealth is mine, and this too shall be mine.'

    Bhagavad Gita 16.13

    Depicts each gain pointing at the next one. our reading

  • A brahmin (retold by Bhishma)

    यच्च कामसुखं लोके यच्च दिव्यं महत्सुखम् / तृष्णाक्षयसुखस्यैते नार्हतः षोडशीं कलाम्

    yacca kāmasukhaṃ loke yacca divyaṃ mahatsukham / tṛṣṇākṣayasukhasyaite nārhataḥ ṣoḍaśīṃ kalām

    Whatever pleasure desire brings in this world, and whatever great happiness there is in heaven, neither is worth a sixteenth part of the happiness that comes when craving ends.

    Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Mokshadharma

What feeds it, step by step

Sequences the texts state outright, in their own order.

Who is rich, who is poor

Bhartrihari, Vairagya Shataka 53
  1. Expectations
  2. Feeling unworthy
  3. Contentment

A person is poor when his craving is large. When the mind is content, there is no distinction between rich and poor.

  • Bhartrihari

    वयमिह परितुष्टा वल्कलैस्त्वं दुकूलैः सम इव परितोषो निर्विशेषो विशेषः । स तु भवतु दरिद्रो यस्य तृष्णा विशाला मनसि च परितुष्टे कोऽर्थवान्को दरिद्रः ॥

    vayamiha parituṣṭā valkalaistvaṃ dukūlaiḥ sama iva paritoṣo nirviśeṣo viśeṣaḥ | sa tu bhavatu daridro yasya tṛṣṇā viśālā manasi ca parituṣṭe ko’rthavānko daridraḥ ||

    We are content here with bark garments, you with silk; the contentment is equal, and the difference makes no difference. He is poor whose craving is vast. When the mind is content, who is rich and who is poor?

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

  • Bhartrihari

    ये सन्तोषनिरन्तरप्रमुदितास्तेषां न भिन्ना मुदो ये त्वन्ये धनलुब्धसंकुलधियस्तेषां न तृष्णा हता । इत्थं कस्य कृते कृतः स विधिना कीदृक्पदं सम्पदां स्वात्मन्येव समाप्तहेममहिमा मेरुर्न मे रोचते ॥

    ye santoṣanirantarapramuditāsteṣāṃ na bhinnā mudo ye tvanye dhanalubdhasaṃkuladhiyasteṣāṃ na tṛṣṇā hatā | itthaṃ kasya kṛte kṛtaḥ sa vidhinā kīdṛkpadaṃ sampadāṃ svātmanyeva samāptahemamahimā merurna me rocate ||

    Those always delighted by contentment have joy that is undivided; the others, minds crowded with greed for money, never kill their craving. So for whom did fate make wealth, and what kind of place is it? Mount Meru, whose golden glory ends in itself, does not appeal to me.

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

The night she stopped waiting

Mahabharata, Shanti Parva 173-174 (Gita Press)
  1. Expectations
  2. misery
  3. Letting go
  4. Peace

Hope is the greatest sorrow and giving up hope is the greatest ease. Pingala slept in peace after she gave up her expectation. Whatever one calls mine becomes a source of pain when it is lost.

  • A brahmin (retold by Bhishma)

    किंचिदेव ममत्वेन यदा भवति कल्पितम् / तदेव परितापाय नाशे संपद्यते तदा

    kiṃcideva mamatvena yadā bhavati kalpitam / tadeva paritāpāya nāśe saṃpadyate tadā

    Whatever a person begins to think of as 'mine', that very thing becomes a source of anguish when it is lost.

    Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Mokshadharma

  • A brahmin (retold by Bhishma)

    यच्च कामसुखं लोके यच्च दिव्यं महत्सुखम् / तृष्णाक्षयसुखस्यैते नार्हतः षोडशीं कलाम्

    yacca kāmasukhaṃ loke yacca divyaṃ mahatsukham / tṛṣṇākṣayasukhasyaite nārhataḥ ṣoḍaśīṃ kalām

    Whatever pleasure desire brings in this world, and whatever great happiness there is in heaven, neither is worth a sixteenth part of the happiness that comes when craving ends.

    Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Mokshadharma

Where craving is, the round is

Ashtavakra Gita 10.3; 9.1; 16.3
  1. Expectations
  2. world cycle
  3. Burnout
  4. Emptiness
  5. Letting go
  6. Peace

Wherever there is craving, the round of the world is there. The list of things done and not done has never ended for anyone. Everyone suffers from straining, and no one sees it.

  • Ashtavakra

    आयासात्सकलो दुःखी नैनं जानाति कश्चन । अनेनैवोपदेशेन धन्यः प्राप्नोति निर्वृतिम् ॥

    āyāsātsakalo duḥkhī nainaṃ jānāti kaścana | anenaivopadeśena dhanyaḥ prāpnoti nirvṛtim ||

    Everyone is miserable from straining after things, and no one realises it. By this single teaching the fortunate one finds peace.

    Ashtavakra Gita 16.3

The river called Hope

Bhartrihari, Vairagya Shataka 10
  1. Expectations
  2. Attachment
  3. A restless mind
  4. Confusion
  5. Worry
  6. Steadiness
  7. Joy

Hope is a river whose water is wishes and whose waves are craving. Its crocodiles are attachment and its birds are restless thoughts. It uproots the tree of steadiness and its whirlpools are delusion. Its high banks are worry. Those who cross it with a clean mind rejoice.

  • Bhartrihari

    आशा नाम नदी मनोरथजला तृष्णातरङ्गाकुला रागग्राहवती वितर्कविहगा धैर्यद्रुमध्वंसिनी । मोहावर्तसुदुस्तरातिगहना प्रोत्तुङ्गचिन्तातटी तस्याः पारगता विशुद्धमनसो नन्दन्ति योगीश्वराः ॥

    āśā nāma nadī manorathajalā tṛṣṇātaraṅgākulā rāgagrāhavatī vitarkavihagā dhairyadrumadhvaṃsinī | mohāvartasudustarātigahanā prottuṅgacintātaṭī tasyāḥ pāragatā viśuddhamanaso nandanti yogīśvarāḥ ||

    There is a river called Hope. Its water is wishes, its waves are craving; passions are its crocodiles, doubts its birds; it uproots the trees of courage; its whirlpools of delusion are hard to cross and deep, and its banks of worry tower high. Only great yogis, pure in mind, who reach the far shore, rejoice.

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

What heals it

What the texts set against it, and the verses that give footing.

  • Contentmentsantoṣa

    When the mind is content, who is poor? stated in the text

    Bhartrihari Vairagya 53; Narada; Yoga Vasishtha 2.15

  • Letting govairāgya

    Dropping the expectation is the ease. stated in the text

    Pingala; Ashtavakra 10.3

  • Self-controlledsvadhina

    What others do is theirs; pair rule applies. stated in the text

    Manas Ayodhya 92; Ajagara

  • Joyānanda

    Content in the self by the self. stated in the text

    Taittiriya 2.8; Gita 2.55

  • Bhartrihari

    वयमिह परितुष्टा वल्कलैस्त्वं दुकूलैः सम इव परितोषो निर्विशेषो विशेषः । स तु भवतु दरिद्रो यस्य तृष्णा विशाला मनसि च परितुष्टे कोऽर्थवान्को दरिद्रः ॥

    vayamiha parituṣṭā valkalaistvaṃ dukūlaiḥ sama iva paritoṣo nirviśeṣo viśeṣaḥ | sa tu bhavatu daridro yasya tṛṣṇā viśālā manasi ca parituṣṭe ko’rthavānko daridraḥ ||

    We are content here with bark garments, you with silk; the contentment is equal, and the difference makes no difference. He is poor whose craving is vast. When the mind is content, who is rich and who is poor?

    Bhartrihari · Vairagya Shatakam

  • Teacher

    सैषाऽऽनन्दस्य मीमाꣳसा भवति । युवा स्यात्साधुयुवाऽध्यायकः । आशिष्ठो दृढिष्ठो बलिष्ठः । तस्येयं पृथिवी सर्वा वित्तस्य पूर्णा स्यात् । स एको मानुष आनन्दः । ते ये शतं मानुषा आनन्दाः । स एको मनुष्यगन्धर्वाणामानन्दः । श्रोत्रियस्य चाकामहतस्य ।

    saiṣā’’nandasya mīmāꣳsā bhavati | yuvā syātsādhuyuvā’dhyāyakaḥ | āśiṣṭho dṛḍhiṣṭho baliṣṭhaḥ | tasyeyaṃ pṛthivī sarvā vittasya pūrṇā syāt | sa eko mānuṣa ānandaḥ | te ye śataṃ mānuṣā ānandāḥ | sa eko manuṣyagandharvāṇāmānandaḥ | śrotriyasya cākāmahatasya |

    Now an inquiry into joy. Let there be a young man, good, well read, quick, firm and strong, and let this whole earth full of wealth be his: that is one measure of human joy. A hundred human joys make one joy of the human gandharvas, and so too is the joy of a learned one untouched by desire.

    Taittiriya Upanishad 2.8.1-2

  • Vasishtha

    अकिंचनोऽप्यसौ जन्तुः साम्राज्यसुखमश्नुते । आधिव्याधिविनिर्मुक्तं संतुष्टं यस्य मानसम् ॥

    akiṃcano’pyasau jantuḥ sāmrājyasukhamaśnute | ādhivyādhivinirmuktaṃ saṃtuṣṭaṃ yasya mānasam ||

    Even a person who owns nothing enjoys the happiness of an emperor, if their mind is content and free of mental and bodily troubles.

    Yoga Vasishtha

    Unties happiness from possession. our reading

  • Ashtavakra

    यस्तु भोगेषु भुक्तेषु न भवत्यधिवासितः । अभुक्तेषु निराकाङ्क्षी तदृशो भवदुर्लभः ॥

    yastu bhogeṣu bhukteṣu na bhavatyadhivāsitaḥ | abhukteṣu nirākāṅkṣī tadṛśo bhavadurlabhaḥ ||

    One who doesn't keep dwelling on pleasures already enjoyed, nor pine for pleasures not yet had, is rare in this world.

    Ashtavakra Gita 17.4

    Shows longing for what has not come. our reading

  • Ashtavakra

    नैव प्रार्थयते लाभं नालाभेनानुशोचति । धीरस्य शीतलं चित्तममृतेनैव पूरितम् ॥

    naiva prārthayate lābhaṃ nālābhenānuśocati | dhīrasya śītalaṃ cittamamṛtenaiva pūritam ||

    He does not pray for gain, nor grieve over loss. The steady one's cool mind is filled as if with nectar.

    Ashtavakra Gita 18.81

    Shows asking for gain is set down. our reading

  • Krishna

    श्रेयो हि ज्ञानमभ्यासाज्ज्ञानाद्ध्यानं विशिष्यते । ध्यानात्कर्मफलत्यागस्त्यागाच्छान्तिरनन्तरम् ॥

    śreyo hi jñānamabhyāsājjñānāddhyānaṃ viśiṣyate | dhyānātkarmaphalatyāgastyāgācchāntiranantaram ||

    Knowledge is better than mere practice; meditation is better than knowledge; giving up the fruit of action is better than meditation. From that renunciation, peace follows immediately.

    Bhagavad Gita 12.12

    Names wanting that rides on every outcome. our reading

  • Krishna

    कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥

    karmaṇyevādhikāraste mā phaleṣu kadācana | mā karmaphalaheturbhūrmā te saṅgo’stvakarmaṇi ||

    Your right is to the work alone, never to its fruits. Do not let the fruit be your motive, and do not cling to doing nothing.

    Bhagavad Gita 2.47

    Shows fruit taken away as the reason for acting. our reading

  • Krishna

    आपूर्यमाणमचलप्रतिष्ठंसमुद्रमापः प्रविशन्ति यद्वत् । तद्वत्कामा यं प्रविशन्ति सर्वेस शान्तिमाप्नोति न कामकामी ॥

    āpūryamāṇamacalapratiṣṭhaṃsamudramāpaḥ praviśanti yadvat | tadvatkāmā yaṃ praviśanti sarvesa śāntimāpnoti na kāmakāmī ||

    As waters enter the ocean, which is ever being filled yet stays unmoved within its shores, so the one into whom all desires enter in the same way finds peace, not the one who craves desires.

    Bhagavad Gita 2.70

    Shows wanting arriving without moving the one it arrives in. our reading

Practices that grow contentment, letting go and joy

Verses that give something to do, today or in the hard moment.

  • Ashtavakra

    मा सङ्कल्पविकल्पाभ्यां चित्तं क्षोभय चिन्मय । उपशाम्य सुखं तिष्ठ स्वात्मन्यानन्दविग्रहे ॥

    mā saṅkalpavikalpābhyāṃ cittaṃ kṣobhaya cinmaya | upaśāmya sukhaṃ tiṣṭha svātmanyānandavigrahe ||

    Do not stir your mind with yes and no, with plans and doubts. Be still, and rest happily in your own joyful Self.

    Ashtavakra Gita 15.19

    Shows the self is called ananda-vigraha. our reading

  • Krishna

    श्री भगवानुवाच असंशयं महाबाहो मनो दुर्निग्रहं चलं । अभ्यासेन तु कौन्तेय वैराग्येण च गृह्यते ॥

    śrī bhagavānuvāca asaṃśayaṃ mahābāho mano durnigrahaṃ calaṃ | abhyāsena tu kaunteya vairāgyeṇa ca gṛhyate ||

    The Blessed Lord said: Undoubtedly, mighty-armed one, the mind is restless and hard to control. But it is held by practice and by detachment, Kaunteya.

    Bhagavad Gita 6.35

    Shows loosening the pull of what the mind runs to. our reading

  • Bhartrihari

    दानं भोगो नाशस्तिस्रो गतयो भवन्ति वित्तस्य । यो न ददाति न भुङ्क्ते तस्य तृतीया गतिर्भवति ॥

    dānaṃ bhogo nāśastisro gatayo bhavanti vittasya | yo na dadāti na bhuṅkte tasya tṛtīyā gatirbhavati ||

    Wealth has three destinies: giving, enjoying and loss. Whoever neither gives nor enjoys it meets the third.

    Bhartrihari · Niti Shatakam

    Names enjoy what one has. our reading

  • Kalakavrikshiya

    अवाप्यान्कामयन्नर्थान्नानवाप्यान्कदाचन / प्रत्युत्पन्नाननुभवन्मा शुचस्त्वमनागतान्

    avāpyānkāmayannarthānnānavāpyānkadācana / pratyutpannānanubhavanmā śucastvamanāgatān

    Wish for what can be had, never for what cannot. Enjoy what is in front of you now, and do not grieve over what has not yet come.

    Mahabharata · Shanti Parva · Bhishma, Rajadharma

    Shows enjoying what is present is named as the practice. our reading

  • Gandhari

    न लोभादर्थसंपत्तिर्नराणामिह दृश्यते / तदलं तात लोभेन प्रशाम्य भरतर्षभ ॥

    na lobhādarthasaṃpattirnarāṇāmiha dṛśyate / tadalaṃ tāta lobhena praśāmya bharatarṣabha ||

    No one in this world gains real wealth through greed. Enough of greed, my son. Be at peace.

    Mahabharata · Udyoga Parva · Udyoga: Krishna's peace embassy

    Enough. our reading

  • Kausalya

    यह बिचारि नहिं करउँ हठ झूठ सनेहु बढ़ाइ। मानि मातु कर नात बलि सुरति बिसरि जनि जाइ ॥

    yah bicāri nahiṃ karauṁ haṭh jhūṭh sanehu baṛhāi| māni mātu kar nāt bali surati bisari jani jāi ||

    Thinking this over, I will not insist out of false affection. I bless you, son; only keep the bond of a mother, and don't forget me.

    Ramcharitmanas · Ayodhya Kand

  • Ram

    सातवँ सम मोहि मय जग देखा। मोतें संत अधिक करि लेखा॥ आठवँ जथालाभ संतोषा। सपनेहुँ नहिं देखइ परदोषा ॥

    sātavaṁ sam mohi may jag dekhā| moteṃ saṃt adhik kari lekhā|| āṭhavaṁ jathālābh saṃtoṣā| sapanehuṁ nahiṃ dekhai paradoṣā ||

    The seventh is to see the whole world as filled with me, and to regard good people as greater than me. The eighth is to be content with whatever comes, and never, even in a dream, to look for faults in others.

    Ramcharitmanas · Aranya Kand

    Shows contentment named as a form of devotion. our reading

  • Tulsidas

    कबहुँक हौं यहि रहनि रहौंगो। श्रीरघुनाथ-कृपालु-कृपातें संत-सुभाव गहौंगो॥ ९॥ जथालाभसंतोष सदा, काहू सों कछु न चहांगो। पर-हित-निरत निरंतर, मन क्रम बचन नेम निबहौंगो॥ … परुष बचन अति दुसह श्रवन सुनि तेहि पावक न दहांगो। बिगत मान, सम सीतल मन, पर-गुन नहिं दोष कहाँगो॥ ३॥ परिहरि देह-जनित चिंता, दुख-सुख समबुद्धि सहोंगो।

    kabahuṁk hauṃ yahi rahani rahauṃgo| śrīraghunāth-kṛpālu-kṛpāteṃ saṃt-subhāv gahauṃgo|| 9|| jathālābhasaṃtoṣ sadā, kāhū soṃ kachu na cahāṃgo| par-hit-nirat niraṃtar, man kram bacan nem nibahauṃgo|| … paruṣ bacan ati dusah śravan suni tehi pāvak na dahāṃgo| bigat mān, sam sītal man, par-gun nahiṃ doṣ kahāṁgo|| 3|| parihari deh-janit ciṃtā, dukh-sukh samabuddhi sahoṃgo|

    Will I ever live like this? By the grace of kind Raghunath, will I take on the nature of a saint: always content with what comes, wanting nothing from anyone, always devoted to others' good, keeping my vow in mind, deed and word; hearing very harsh words and not burning in that fire; free of pride, even and cool of mind, speaking of others' virtues and not their faults; letting go of the body's worries, bearing joy and sorrow with an even mind?

    Vinay Patrika, pada 172

People who lived it

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  • From the Poets and saints

    Vairagyashatakam: Censure of craving

    The poet confesses everything he did for money and approval: digging for treasure, flattering kings, forcing laughter. He ends with the famous lines that pleasures consumed us and craving never aged, and hope pictured as a river.

    We think we are chasing things; really, the chase is using up our lives.

  • From the Mahabharata

    Manki's song: desire, I know your root

    Manki spends all he has on a pair of oxen; both are killed in an accident. In his despair he sees through desire: it is born of his own imagining, and he resolves to forgive insults and stop feeding it. Bhishma adds Janaka's verse on owning nothing.

    Desire grows from what we imagine. Stop feeding it, and it fades.

  • From the Mahabharata

    Pingala's song: the night she stopped waiting

    Pingala waited all night for a lover who never came. At last she saw that her peace depended on someone else's arrival, let the expectation go, and slept peacefully.

    Letting go of an expectation can bring the sleep that waiting never will.

  • From the Vivekananda

    Karma-Yoga 5: we help ourselves, not the world

    The world does not need our help; helping is a privilege that makes us stronger. Expecting thanks brings unhappiness, so be grateful to the one you help. The world is a moral gymnasium, and calm people do the best work.

    Helping is a privilege, not a debt someone owes you.

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Questions people ask

What is the Sanskrit word for expectations?
Tṛṣṇā (तृष्णा). Restless wanting, expectation, hope that binds.
Which Bhagavad Gita verse speaks about expectations?
Bhagavad Gita 16.13: 'This I have gained today; this desire I shall fulfil. This wealth is mine, and this too shall be mine.'
How do the scriptures say to overcome expectations?
They set joy, clarity and contentment against it. When the mind is content, who is poor? (Bhartrihari Vairagya 53; Narada; Yoga Vasishtha 2.15) Dropping the expectation is the ease. (Pingala; Ashtavakra 10.3)

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